The Most Racist things a Date has Said to Me
That's really hard to narrow down. As a colored woman on a dating website (OkCupid), I get so many messages where I don't feel like I'm even a person to these guys anymore. I see multiple profile where they list the women they will date, or won't date. Usually the men who do this will write on their profile that they will only date white women, others say that they will only date Whites and Asians but will make an exception for some Hispanics and Blacks.
Many of the messages I get feel so awkward with things like "I love Hispanic girls", "You're weirdly attractive", "You're exotic", "oddly hot", "strangely beautiful". This is besides the usually remarks about my body, appearance, and questions about having casual sex, and dick pics. I've been on a few dates, and they all ended badly. I'm the type of person who hates casual conversation, so I turn the conversation into a debate, or an intellectual discussion about everything from the military, to history, politics, and race. When I'm discussing these things I get a better idea of the person, and it's usually for the worse.
I went on a date last week at a coffee shop. We got into a discussion about Christopher Columbus. If you defend him, I won't like you. Which he did horribly. I couldn't believe what he was saying. He was saying the Native American population was exaggerated and that there are almost no one here. He put up his hand, "there was only like 1 or 2". He spend the whole conversation speaking over me, going over Columbus's 4 voyages. I was ready to end the date, but stayed because I wanted to be polite. But the memory of him telling me (a Mayan) that I should be grateful because without him we (Hispanics) wouldn't have our culture was such a big slap in the face coming from another colored person.
Another one I had was when I was in college. I met him outside the cafeteria with my sandwich and drink. He was so nervous. We were just casually talking and he was stumbling over words and jittery. "Hey, calm down. It's no big deal we're just talking." He took a deep breathe and tried to relax. I guess he was nervous about a date with me. Because there was no excuse for what he told me as the conversation began again. He asked me if I liked white guys. And I said yeah, they're good looking. And he said "Yeah, it's good to move up the social ladder"
....wow. It's not looking good for me you guys.
